This is a summary of my thoughts following a discussion on various gender ambiguous characters in anime/manga and videogames. For the sake of this post, I will be using the Capcom character known as Poison as my main example.
I like the way Poison looks no matter what the character's gender is since that's just a social construct. And I’d like to say that this applies to everyday life situations too.
I pursue women and I can’t remember it ever being any other way. As a result, just like anyone else, there are certain features I look for in them which constitute what I and probably ONLY I consider to be a good women or more precisely a good mate. Those features can relate to a potential mate's physical or behavioral attributes. Whether natural or manmade, some of Poison's physical and behavioral attributes that I'm aware of are attractive to me. At the same time, there are some that are not.
It can be conscious or unconscious but we all do it: we prefer associating with people that we are attracted to, be it sexually or simply friendly.
What is wrong with appreciating someone or something that displays some (or all) features you are attracted to? Some societies would say that you are right as long as it doesn't leave the boundaries of the gender they’ve assigned you since birth. A gender that is almost always based on sex.
To me this all really is about acceptance, labels, and confidence. I feel that I’m able to understand that transgendered individuals seek a better, happier, or healthier life as it is what everyone does. In their attempt at happiness, they certainly shouldn’t require anyone’s approval or acceptance but only people’s understanding and acknowledgement.
Whatever label has been cast upon someone doesn’t define that person as a whole. It only summarizes a minute part in the middle of so many making up an entire complex being.
In the end, I’m lucky to be confident enough to appreciate any attractive facet of a person. I don’t think it’s reasonable to assume that we always chase or even commit to what attracts us since those attractions vary in type and in intensity.